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#3151 |
Join Date: Sep 2017
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Re: Ryan Adams, abuse, and the Stans that love them.
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#3152 |
Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: Philadelphia
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#3153 |
Join Date: Apr 2016
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Re: Ryan Adams, abuse, and the Stans that love them.
He apologized. His career will never be the same.
But of course, those who want to never hear from him again are always going to claim the apology wasn’t ‘good enough.’ |
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Join Date: Aug 2016
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#3156 |
Join Date: Aug 2016
Location: Milwaukee
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Join Date: Jan 2015
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Join Date: Jul 2014
Location: New York
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#3159 |
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Re: Ryan Adams, abuse, and the Stans that love them.
If you don’t like him, just go somewhere else. I don’t understand the arguing in this thread.
I have always thought him an asshole, but I’ve always liked his music.
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#3160 |
Join Date: Jul 2014
Location: New York
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Re: Ryan Adams, abuse, and the Stans that love them.
I love his music, I'm just not singing a redemption song for the guy like others.
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#3161 |
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Re: Ryan Adams, abuse, and the Stans that love them.
How sweet. I certainly found Jason's enthusiastic harassment of Mandy Moore, Phoebe Bridgers and others beautiful. Every time he called one of them a slut or a golddigger or a liar; the world got just a little bit more lovely. Even multiple (and apparently pointless) Twitter bans couldn't deter him from offering all that love and support. Quite a guy.
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#3162 |
Join Date: Feb 2019
Location: Nashville, TN
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Re: Ryan Adams, abuse, and the Stans that love them.
Matt Mondanile (exiled from Real Estate for sexual misconduct) liked his apology post, lol.
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#3163 |
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#3164 |
Join Date: Sep 2016
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Re: Ryan Adams, abuse, and the Stans that love them.
the former manager is back to posting about toxic narcissism in her story today.
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#3165 | |
Join Date: Apr 2016
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Re: Ryan Adams, abuse, and the Stans that love them.
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Jeez... bunch of snowflakes. Ryan was definitely guilty of being so self absorbed in his career that he didn’t make time to help hers... And did Phoebe Bridgers date Ryan against her will? Jeez.. Ryan definitely wasn’t cool, but being a shitty partner—-which partly means making false promises and not following through—-isn’t a crime. Quit looking at women as if they don’t have free will, and men as if when they’re not the perfect husband, boyfriend, career move, then it’s #metoo |
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#3166 |
Join Date: Feb 2019
Location: West Palm Beach
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Re: Ryan Adams, abuse, and the Stans that love them.
after you’ve mistreated someone, making the acknowlegement that you’re “flawed” and human, is disarming, and often quite effective towards regaining a sense of good standing and goodwill.
the thing is, there are some types who would arrive there after a period of genuine soul-searching, self-reflection, and a compassionate assessment of how they’ve shown up in the experience of the person/people they’ve hurt; there are other types who would arrive there because they’re able to recognize its remarkable effectiveness to the desired end of a quick reconciliation; a mainline back to goodwill that doesn’t really require the work that would lead to new insights, empathy, expanded levels of compassion, or deeper understandings of someone else’s experience. because the weight of certain words can be *so* disarming and appealing to the humanity in compassionate-types, it is very difficult to distinguish between the sincere version of those sorts of statements, and the manipulative version. and adding an extra layer of trickiness to this dynamic is the fact that (clinical) narcissist types often aren’t even able to recognize the manipulative intentions underlying their own actions/words, as manipulative. it’s the right thing to say, afterall, and they’ve said the right thing; why is there still a problem?! they have good and loving intentions always except for when they do not! i don’t know which category ryan’s latest statements fall under. i do recognize his statements, though, because they’ve been said by him so many times in the past. |
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#3168 |
Join Date: Feb 2019
Location: West Palm Beach
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Re: Ryan Adams, abuse, and the Stans that love them.
If his recent poetic, moving, inspiring, and endearing statements are in fact more strategic than heart-felt, I would imagine their intended audience is moreso industry-gatekeepers than super fans. He won't work again in the capacity he desires unless he can regain the confidence and support of the wiiiide network of industry-related organizations that, in this socio-political/cultural climate, would be terrified to so much as sneeze in his direction. Simply from a business standpoint, imagine the cost/benefit rundowns that would have to factor in the severe PR headaches and insurance premiums required to support him now. An incredible liability when the game being played hinges on "vibe-ing on-trend"-- socio-politically & culturally speaking-- and you're currently an emphatic counter-representation of that.
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#3169 |
Join Date: Aug 2014
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Re: Ryan Adams, abuse, and the Stans that love them.
Bring on the tunes.
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#3170 |
Join Date: Oct 2006
Location: Minnesota,USA
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Re: Ryan Adams, abuse, and the Stans that love them.
Kind of my thought as well. If I worried about the personal life of every musician I listened to and if they were a "good person" (whatever that means anymore), I'd be listening to Pat Boone and Don Williams all day. Would I prefer my favorite musicians be honorable and without flaw? Sure, but I know that's not going to happen, so I learn to separate the musician from the music. I think a lot of people would be shocked to find out what their favorite musicians are really like if they knew them personally.
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#3171 |
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#3172 | |
Join Date: Apr 2016
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Re: Ryan Adams, abuse, and the Stans that love them.
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Forgive him or not, I thought Louis CKs apology was great. But to some, it had a million holes in it. Whatever... |
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#3173 |
Join Date: Feb 2019
Location: West Palm Beach
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Re: Ryan Adams, abuse, and the Stans that love them.
Do *you* think Ryan's recent post on Instagram was completely sincere?
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Re: Ryan Adams, abuse, and the Stans that love them.
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I think his issue was that he said he was gonna step back and take some time and then 6 months later he's back in the clubs. And rather than reflect on it in his self deprecating way, he avoids it as if it never happened. There seemingly was no follow through. Granted, he may keep all that private, as is his right. You hope that he's made strides to improve as well as amends. but there was no public showing outside of the statement. But you're right. For some people it will never be enough. And thats OK too. People can be done with him. He squandered basic trust that we choose to put on others. There are lines that are not Ok to cross, he did and his error is egregious, even though he apologized. You don't deserve redemption. You have to earn it and depending on what someone has done, they still may not deserve it. Last edited by Tim Simmons; 07-21-2019 at 12:31 PM.. |
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#3175 |
Join Date: Feb 2019
Location: West Palm Beach
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Re: Ryan Adams, abuse, and the Stans that love them.
i hate to be cynical and i recognize that calling an apology into question comes at the risk of seeming cold-hearted. there’s also the risk of being naive and easily manipulated. i suppose the people who are more likely to question whether ryan’s words are truly heart-felt and sincere and not written with the intent to regain industry standing and sympathy-responses from fans, are the ones who may have had similar experiences with ryan or people in their own life who have repeatedly offered similarly-natured statements after behaving in outlandishly inconsiderate, nasty, selfish, or manipulative ways, and then followed their touching apologies by repeating the same kinds of behaviors. i can’t say what ryan’s manager did was within the boundaries of professionalism, but i can identify her frustration and possibly sympathize with the toll taken on her own mental health and sense of well-being if she’s had to handle these sorts of patterns over prolonged periods. dealing intimately with a narcissist over time can really have profound effects on ones psyche, to the extent that people are now doing phd level work trying to sort out it all out. the icing on the cake comes when the person who has been deliberately destructive or engaged in mean-spirited behaviors, accuses those who attempt to address the issue (with the intention of putting a stop to it) of victimizing *them*, or having unreasonable standards. i don’t condone ryan’s manager’s social media antic, but i don’t envy the impossible position she’s in, either.
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